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A useful therapy relationship is about more than the name of a method. Signs to look for, and how to bring feedback into sessions rather than saving it for the end.

When people compare therapies, they often focus on techniques. In psychotherapy, the relationship between client and therapist matters just as much. From the client's side, a few signs suggest the working relationship is on track.

Trained in psychotherapy as well as acupuncture, Dr Christine Shen, Acupuncturist, keeps that conversation open, and in Lane Cove she regularly invites clients to say how the work feels to them.

Signs worth noticing

• You feel listened to rather than rushed or judged.
• You understand, at least broadly, what the plan is and why.
• You feel able to say when something is not helping.
• Sessions connect to what you said you wanted.

Feedback belongs in the room

You do not have to wait until the end of a series of sessions to raise concerns. You might mention what you took from the last session, what was hard to talk about or which topic you would like more time on. Talking about the working relationship is part of the therapy itself, not a complaint that must be held back.

A simple way to start

If giving feedback feels awkward, try a short note before the session: one thing that was useful, one thing that was not clear, and one thing you would like to explore. Reading it aloud can make the conversation easier.

When a different fit might suit you

Sometimes the honest conclusion is that another approach or professional would serve you better. Christine can talk through options, including a referral via your GP to a psychologist or psychiatrist where that is appropriate. In a multi-therapy clinic, some people also explore body-based care such as massage, but that should complement rather than replace psychological support when it is needed.

Keeping the work pointed where you want it

Revisit your goals from time to time. Ask how progress is being judged and how to get support between appointments if things become harder. If you ever feel unsafe, contact emergency help immediately.